Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse with a cumulative impact. It is not defined by one or two or three incidents. It is more like death by a thousand cuts. The abuser presents a credible threat to their victim, who has learned over time to live on the edge, walk on eggshells, and be on the constant lookout for punishment.
These include shouting, belittling, mocking, interrogation, and contempt. The victim’s movements and activities are monitored, micro-managed, and critically assessed. They may be stalked by electronic surveillance of their phone or car. Even if they are financially independent, their abuser will find ways to inflict economic punishment by not paying their share of the bills, by draining any joint account, or by subjecting the victim to costly legal challenges.